this is a copy of an old post from my old blog (efx2 which then became efx2blogs). in the end, the final incarnation (efx2blogs) went down one too many times for me, so i switched to blogger. i was able to recover most of my older stuff (efx2) from archive.org. some smilies, graphics, and/or links may be missing, but you get the idea.
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i managed to keep my blog a secret from the people in my real life (except mom, wifey and my best friend) for awhile, but the cat is officially out of the bag! i've had a serious influx of people i know and work with reading my blog.
on the one hand its cool to talk to real live people about blog stuff and have your friends (like garyson on the 48 questions post) make crazy comments. i love that shit.
but on the other hand...... i wonder how much i'll reign in what i want to say knowing they will be reading. now that the owner's wife (who is also my friend) will see my blog, will i blog about him when he makes me mad? if i do, will i say what i want to say in all its unedited glory or will i refrain? if, for whatever reason, i get upset at one of these people, will i blog about it knowing they will read it? should i?
i know that its my blog, my feelings. if people don't like it, its their issue, not mine. but how far does that really go? either way *waving the the voyeurs up in the nosebleed seats* hey, ya'll!
do most of you guys have readers from your real life too?
in un-related but nonetheless important news, wifey and are have entered peace treaty talks. about damn time! keeping up the cold shoulder is tiring!
EDIT:
note to wifey: can we get on with it already and get it on? this not speaking and fighting bullshit gets old real quick. let's get nekkid!
Listening to: ringleader of the tormentors - morrissey
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RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: SplinteredMind | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 06:59 PM
Does this mean our fire must now be turned down to a low simmer?
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: spaceystacey | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 07:00 PM
hell no!
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: sic | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 07:05 PM
I was a bit worried about it at first when my real-life people began to find out about it.
But then I thought, fuck it.
Besides, there are always buddies only posts, etc.
Congrats on getting the peace.. and perhaps a piece?
sic
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: imustbcr8zier | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 07:07 PM
thank god for the friends only feature; you can mark your blog set to friends only if you need to get something out and don't want everyone else seeing
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: spaceystacey | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 07:12 PM
DOH! i forgot all about the buddies only option! thanks for reminding me, guys!
sic: i'm definitely hoping so. as a matter of fact, i think i'll edit the post with a note to wifey.
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: philmccracken | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 07:14 PM
I don't have people in my life reading my blog. If I did, I wouldn't be able to talk about all the stupid things they do with them getting their feelings hurt.
Let's face it...there are times where we don't even like our friends. I'd hate to lose those friends though.
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: sic | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 07:17 PM
Helping ladies get naked with each other is just one of the services I offer.
sic
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: spaceystacey | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 07:55 PM
phil: my sentiments exactly about not liking friends sometimes.
sic:
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: SplinteredMind | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 08:44 PM
I was so concerned about others that I know reading my blog, seeing my intimate thoughts and writing, that I went out and started a COMPLETELY different blog. Was it a pain? Yes. Is it great to pull up the warm blaket of anonymity around me and say whatever I want? Hell yes it is!!
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: spaceystacey | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 09:02 PM
i agree. i think i'm gonna do the buddies only thing when i need to.
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: BudaBoy | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 09:16 PM
well my dear you can hate me anytime ya need too........... Love ya babe....... and always will even if ya say nasty things about me.... Hell I will love ya even more if ya do say the nasty things..................
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: spaceystacey | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 09:27 PM
oh, i never hate you, sweet budaboy. *mwah*
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: Ueberscheisse | Guest | Web
Date: May 05, 2006 at 10:19 PM
Of course, you could always open up a secret blog identity, and use that one only to rant...
Or, there's always the old pen and paper method for when things get really out of hand.
I'd think that the biggest potential downside would be that people you know might come to rely on your blog to find out what you're *really* tinking or feeling, as opposed to just asking, or talking to you directly. Just one of the reasons I treat my blog as performance art, rather than a diary or journal. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
Perhaps, then, it comes down to how you handle the 'alternate dimension' aspect of having people you know aware of your blog. You could, for example, (boy I'm using a lot of appositives today) play the part as a courier, and provide snippets of hints of things in the blog to 'shape the spin' as it were. It could also be easier if you're not feeling confrontational to put something in the blog and wait for it to be discovered. Naturally, there's a danger asociated with that, and if one becomes too accostomed to sniping from a distance, then what does one do when one really needs to tell someone, "Hey Doofus- you're bein' a frikkin' a intercoursing DOOFUS!" ?
In the end, I think it's a communication issue, and one of the choices we all make is how much to communicate, and to whom. Remeber, we have faces to keep our guts from spilling out.
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: spaceystacey | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 11:15 PM
ueber: your blog is definitely performance art.
i hear what you are saying, though. however, as always, i think you've put more thought into it than i did. i hadn't thought about people reading and not talking as much as is so-and-so going to be upset when they read that they pissed me off. especially because, as you know, i tend to keep that to myself in real life (remember that discussion the other day about me being reserved and work stacey vs. home stacey?). when it?s the wife, i definitely tell her before i blog because i would never want her to see something here she hadn?t heard directly from me first. but in the workplace and in many of my friendships, i try to remain as reserved as possible with regard to my feelings when someone has upset me so as to avoid confrontation.
by the way, thanks for showin' the love! *mwah*
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: MissMinda | [ + ]
Date: May 05, 2006 at 11:38 PM
I only have one coworker who reads my blog...and she doesn't even work in the same county anymore, so she's not really my coworker now. I have some real life friends who read it, but they blog as well. My sister reads it, but the rest of my family doesn't know it exists. I like it better this way. I do like the buddy options too!
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: Squilla | [ + ]
Date: May 06, 2006 at 09:40 AM
For ages I kept it a secret, but now all sorts of real-life people read my blog (Incuding my Mum and Dad!). At first I felt really wierd and like I didn't want to blog any more - but now I don't mind and they have come to know a side of me that they otherwise wouldn't.
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: benthere | [ + ]
Date: May 07, 2006 at 08:12 PM
Here's a secret.
I have three blogs.
Very few people who know me know about benthere...my boys, my brother and sil and a couple close friends...fewer still know of the second one and nobody knows about the third. Well...now you do...but don't tell :P
I want to be able to be completely anonymous when I feel the need. I do not want to have to curb my writing based on who is reading.
And yeah wifey...it's time for make up sex dammiT!
RE: real life vs. blog world
Posted by: SplinteredMind | [ + ]
Date: May 08, 2006 at 01:23 PM
I'm with you b, there is a great freedom in having a blog where you can write whatever you think or feel and not have to worry about it. My efx2 blog helps keep me sane, and its very entertaining!